Comments for Woven Women http://wovenwomen.wordpress.com Women weaving God, inspiration and humor into everyday life Fri, 20 Jun 2008 03:51:51 +0000 http://wordpress.com/ hourly 1 Comment on Just Say No! by Kelly Jones http://wovenwomen.wordpress.com/2007/12/07/just-say-no/#comment-38 Kelly Jones Fri, 20 Jun 2008 03:51:51 +0000 http://wovenwomen.wordpress.com/2007/12/07/just-say-no/#comment-38 I know what you mean I hate being put in that situation every time I walk into a department store. I know what you mean I hate being put in that situation every time I walk into a department store.

]]> Comment on 4 Tips To Get a Man To Open Up by Michelle http://wovenwomen.wordpress.com/marriage/4-tips-to-get-a-man-to-open-up/#comment-33 Michelle Wed, 05 Mar 2008 01:22:40 +0000 http://wovenwomen.wordpress.com/marriage/4-tips-to-get-a-man-to-open-up/#comment-33 Saving deep conversations for the car ride is something that has worked well in the past, the only thing you really have to watch out for is to make sure that it doesn't become a heated conversation(argument). If it does, then you're both trapped in a small, contained place and feel like you can't take a walk to cool down (unless the driver is willing to pull over,... but then you run the risk of being marooned as they drive away,... or they might have a momentary urge to run you down; neither would be beneficial). Saving deep conversations for the car ride is something that has worked well in the past, the only thing you really have to watch out for is to make sure that it doesn’t become a heated conversation(argument). If it does, then you’re both trapped in a small, contained place and feel like you can’t take a walk to cool down (unless the driver is willing to pull over,… but then you run the risk of being marooned as they drive away,… or they might have a momentary urge to run you down; neither would be beneficial).

]]> Comment on Fun by Kerri Ellis http://wovenwomen.wordpress.com/videos/#comment-32 Kerri Ellis Wed, 06 Feb 2008 15:56:58 +0000 http://wovenwomen.wordpress.com/videos/#comment-32 I love this. I love this.

]]> Comment on Helping your kids with their homework without losing your mind! by kimkopec http://wovenwomen.wordpress.com/parenting/helping-your-kids-with-their-homework-without-losing-your-mind/#comment-30 kimkopec Sat, 02 Feb 2008 18:10:32 +0000 http://wovenwomen.wordpress.com/?page_id=35#comment-30 How do the rest of you help your children with their HOMEWORK without LOSING YOUR MIND???!?!!!!! There is not a teaching bone in my body. I know that there are many different learning styles and try to recognize which ones fit my kids best. However, just when I think I’ve figured out how to get through to them, I get that “deer in the headlights” gaze and know they have checked out. We go over one point for 15 minutes, then I ask the question and get an “I don’t knooooow.” I’m like “What do you mean, you don’t know? We’ve been going over this for the last 15 minutes! How can you not know?” Then they reply with “Mommy, you’re scaring me”, to which I reply “okay, I just can not do this anymore.” So that is my dilemma. Any words of wisdom out there before I call Sylvan Learning Center?? How do the rest of you help your children with their HOMEWORK without LOSING YOUR MIND???!?!!!!!

There is not a teaching bone in my body. I know that there are many different learning styles and try to recognize which ones fit my kids best. However, just when I think I’ve figured out how to get through to them, I get that “deer in the headlights” gaze and know they have checked out. We go over one point for 15 minutes, then I ask the question and get an “I don’t knooooow.” I’m like “What do you mean, you don’t know? We’ve been going over this for the last 15 minutes! How can you not know?” Then they reply with “Mommy, you’re scaring me”, to which I reply “okay, I just can not do this anymore.”

So that is my dilemma. Any words of wisdom out there before I call Sylvan Learning Center??

]]> Comment on What to tell your kids about Santa? by kimkopec http://wovenwomen.wordpress.com/parenting/what-to-tell-your-kids-about-santa/#comment-29 kimkopec Sat, 02 Feb 2008 18:05:39 +0000 http://wovenwomen.wordpress.com/?page_id=34#comment-29 1. Aubrey - December 11, 2007 Okay i wasn’t sure if this would go under parenting or spiritual. Its Kinda both. What is everyone’s take on santa clause?? We’ve had numerous conversations on whether to teach Declan about santa or not. Andy and I both grew up thinking santa was real but im not sure if thats what i want to teach Declan. I would rather instill the birth of Jesus and His amazing gift in our child than tell him about santa clause. We’ve discussed it and are still not sure, So i would just like some input on what everyone else has done. 2. Kim - December 12, 2007 I remember struggling with this. What really helped was a book I got called “Santa, Are You For Real?” This book was written to tell the historical story of St. Nicholas and how he gave to others out of his love for Jesus. I got it at Family Christian Store. I felt it covered both bases wonderfully, sharing the truth about Christ, but also leaving a little wonder to the whole Santa story. **Kim** 1. Aubrey – December 11, 2007

Okay i wasn’t sure if this would go under parenting or spiritual. Its Kinda both. What is everyone’s take on santa clause?? We’ve had numerous conversations on whether to teach Declan about santa or not. Andy and I both grew up thinking santa was real but im not sure if thats what i want to teach Declan. I would rather instill the birth of Jesus and His amazing gift in our child than tell him about santa clause. We’ve discussed it and are still not sure, So i would just like some input on what everyone else has done.

2. Kim – December 12, 2007

I remember struggling with this. What really helped was a book I got called “Santa, Are You For Real?” This book was written to tell the historical story of St. Nicholas and how he gave to others out of his love for Jesus. I got it at Family Christian Store. I felt it covered both bases wonderfully, sharing the truth about Christ, but also leaving a little wonder to the whole Santa story. **Kim**

]]> Comment on Marriage by Jan Mitchell-Fyfe http://wovenwomen.wordpress.com/marriage/#comment-24 Jan Mitchell-Fyfe Mon, 21 Jan 2008 17:12:35 +0000 http://wovenwomen.wordpress.com/marriage/#comment-24 My name is Jan Mitchell-fyfe and I am a healer and writer based in Edinburgh, Scotland....! I would say that the most beautiful partnerships are based on self awareness and love. A mature relationship will endeavour to be fully present and loving, being able to free each other emotionally is a great gift and this union of marriage and the sanctity of honour that is embedded in the sharing is a place of beauty and purity. If the two people involved can come together in harmony , creating their lives from within they can share the blessings of connection and the powerful love that is shared through oneness and being together fully, open and resourceful and marriage of hearts and deep connection............ beautiful.....!If we can remember also that our partner is a mirror of ourselves, that mirroring is about understanding those aspects of ourselves within the partnership and loving is about also loving ourselves both separately and together. We can love our individual selves more fully within a happy marriage....1 My name is Jan Mitchell-fyfe and I am a healer and writer based in Edinburgh, Scotland….!
I would say that the most beautiful partnerships are based on self awareness and love. A mature relationship will endeavour to be fully present and loving, being able to free each other emotionally is a great gift and this union of marriage and the sanctity of honour that is embedded in the sharing is a place of beauty and purity. If the two people involved can come together in harmony , creating their lives from within they can share the blessings of connection and the powerful love that is shared through oneness and being together fully, open and resourceful and marriage of hearts and deep connection………… beautiful…..!If we can remember also that our partner is a mirror of ourselves, that mirroring is about understanding those aspects of ourselves within the partnership and loving is about also loving ourselves both separately and together. We can love our individual selves more fully within a happy marriage….1

]]> Comment on Marriage by Michelle http://wovenwomen.wordpress.com/marriage/#comment-23 Michelle Mon, 21 Jan 2008 16:55:10 +0000 http://wovenwomen.wordpress.com/marriage/#comment-23 It's hard when your spouse communicates differently from you, but I think that its important to realize that "different" doesn't necessarily mean that they don't communicate as well as you do. When he's with other guys and talking about something that's important to him, there's often excellent communicating going on. It seems that a lot of our frustration comes from when we realize that what's important to us often falls off their radar. There's times where we're both just looking for different things from conversation. I'm probably not describing this well, because words aren't always my friend. My spouse is actually better at articulating his thoughts into concrete words than I am, they're just usually focussed in a different direction than what I expect. Often, in disagreements, we don't realize that we're arguing for the same thing because we tend to take opposite routes to get to that same truth. At the end, we're like "So why didn't you just say ... (such and such) ... from the beginning?" One of the hardest things about marriage is realizing the depths of difference in how each spouse's brains process information. I think its very important not to let each other settle into the mindset of "well, I'm just not as good at communication as you are" in either direction, because its too easy to use that as an excuse to stop trying. We both have to work hard to understand each other, and look to God to be our facilitator, or translator, at times. It just seems that its not about being better or worse, its just different. Of course, we're kind of oddballs, though,... anyway, that's my view on it, give or take a thought or two. It’s hard when your spouse communicates differently from you, but I think that its important to realize that “different” doesn’t necessarily mean that they don’t communicate as well as you do. When he’s with other guys and talking about something that’s important to him, there’s often excellent communicating going on. It seems that a lot of our frustration comes from when we realize that what’s important to us often falls off their radar. There’s times where we’re both just looking for different things from conversation. I’m probably not describing this well, because words aren’t always my friend. My spouse is actually better at articulating his thoughts into concrete words than I am, they’re just usually focussed in a different direction than what I expect. Often, in disagreements, we don’t realize that we’re arguing for the same thing because we tend to take opposite routes to get to that same truth. At the end, we’re like “So why didn’t you just say … (such and such) … from the beginning?” One of the hardest things about marriage is realizing the depths of difference in how each spouse’s brains process information. I think its very important not to let each other settle into the mindset of “well, I’m just not as good at communication as you are” in either direction, because its too easy to use that as an excuse to stop trying. We both have to work hard to understand each other, and look to God to be our facilitator, or translator, at times. It just seems that its not about being better or worse, its just different. Of course, we’re kind of oddballs, though,… anyway, that’s my view on it, give or take a thought or two.

]]> Comment on Marriage by nharlow http://wovenwomen.wordpress.com/marriage/#comment-22 nharlow Fri, 04 Jan 2008 19:09:35 +0000 http://wovenwomen.wordpress.com/marriage/#comment-22 Probably the best advice I would have is two tips - don't nag, and use "I" statements. The "I" statements have been very helpful in my own marriage so instead of saying something like "you never do such and such" I'll say "I feel like you ___________ " or even "I feel like we need to work on ______________ " this takes the accusatory tone out of it and makes communication go more smoothly. Probably the best advice I would have is two tips – don’t nag, and use “I” statements. The “I” statements have been very helpful in my own marriage so instead of saying something like “you never do such and such” I’ll say “I feel like you ___________ ” or even “I feel like we need to work on ______________ ” this takes the accusatory tone out of it and makes communication go more smoothly.

]]> Comment on Marriage by Esther http://wovenwomen.wordpress.com/marriage/#comment-21 Esther Mon, 17 Dec 2007 19:52:49 +0000 http://wovenwomen.wordpress.com/marriage/#comment-21 I have a few thoughts on that one! :) This is a confidential site, right?! Really, the talking about it is huge. If they don't know something isn't working, how can they fix it? But, the biggest thing I took into my marriage, passsed down from my mother, was to let God do the changing. Pray that God will bring experiences or people into his life that will help him look at things differently. And then, when things do start to happen, thank him!! (god and your husband) Over and over and over and over. :) I have a few thoughts on that one! :) This is a confidential site, right?! Really, the talking about it is huge. If they don’t know something isn’t working, how can they fix it? But, the biggest thing I took into my marriage, passsed down from my mother, was to let God do the changing. Pray that God will bring experiences or people into his life that will help him look at things differently. And then, when things do start to happen, thank him!! (god and your husband) Over and over and over and over. :)

]]> Comment on Marriage by Aubrey http://wovenwomen.wordpress.com/marriage/#comment-20 Aubrey Fri, 14 Dec 2007 03:24:49 +0000 http://wovenwomen.wordpress.com/marriage/#comment-20 I guess it really depends on is he willing to work on his communication skills. It also depends on what you are talking about wether its an argument and hes not responding, or if you are just having a conversation and you feel like you are talking to a brick wall. I would say the best thing is to just communicate your frustration and work on it together. I guess it really depends on is he willing to work on his communication skills. It also depends on what you are talking about wether its an argument and hes not responding, or if you are just having a conversation and you feel like you are talking to a brick wall. I would say the best thing is to just communicate your frustration and work on it together.

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